It is TIME TO UNLEARN.
Did you know our first 5 years are incredibly formative. Our feelings towards ourselves are formed by nature and those who nurtured us.
Without getting into too much of it now, my nature and nurture started off on a back foot. Like waaaay back there! Probably like some of you reading this. But if people like us (back-foot life starters) are intentional we can unlearn the bad and replace it with truth… and the truth is a beautiful thing.
How were you taught to deal with disappointment, heartache, fear, tough emotions? Did someone show you good or evil? Do you bottle it all up, or dismiss? Did rejection or perceived rejection teach you something that has stayed with you? How did you grow up? Who taught you how to feel and think and see yourself and the world? Did you grow up knowing you are loved, knowing you can pursue your desires and achieve them? Knowing you are secure? who taught you how to process change or how to see failure? Did you grow up feeling like you can accomplish? Maybe there is a deep seated insecurity, that holds you back, makes you second guess yourself, makes you strive to achieve approval? Always questioning your value? Always questioning your feeling of being grounded? Who has taught you how you feel about yourself , underneath it all.
Maybe society and culture has been your main teacher, learning from the push of educational systems forming your belief systems, learning from the unhealthy view of sex shoved into our eye balls at a rapid rate. A sinking culture soaked in bad teaching on how to see your body and others bodies. Have you learnt emotional reactions from passed experiences of betrayal, heartache and how you filter the world. What perceptions have you learned on how to see the world around you and how to treat the people around you? Has someone labelled you and you took it to heart and learned to live from that label?
We are learning organisms from day one! Recognize what you have learnt. There is something in there that needs to be unlearned. Something that is holding you back, in work, in relationships, in your finances, in your own view of yourself.
I do believe in truth. I believe truth when known and applied, does set us free. 100%
Recognize in yourself where you need to UNLEARN lies you have learnt. You know all this stuff filters into your work. Into every aspect of your life. As a freelance Photographer I come up against stuff that would hold me back. The bad stuff I have learnt, which I am having much pleasure in recognizing to unlearn. The journey is a fun one! And a freeing one.
Unlearn bad beliefs you have about yourself.
Unlearn Bad attitudes towards your work.
Unlearn what the culture we live in shoves down our throats.
Unlearn unhealthy relationship patterns.
Unlearn failed parenting.
Unlearn bad health habits.
It’s not about picking yourself apart, you are a glorious creature. It’s about recognizing where things learned are not helpful to your life adventure.
The beautiful thing about us, is that there is hope. Every flipping day you open your beautiful eyes. The day meets you with new hope. The hope is as certain as the sun will rise. The hope may have risen into a grey cloudy sky, but its there and you just have to recognize it is there. Hope is rising behind the muddy clouds of emotions collected from bad experiences. Hope to transform from the mishmash of all the bad things we have learned into something beautiful, glorious and grounded.
Step back in the moment and catch yourself when you are acting out of toxic learned behavior. And do it with attitude. Allow others to help you see your week spots, life is providing us ample opportunity to recognize where we are needing to unlearn. Be teachable in your UNLEARN journey. If you are hard headed it wont work. Be willing to drop the wrong teaching and beliefs you got.
Time to unlearn this Sh!t. And I call it sh!t, because I can’t think of another word to describe it. It stinks and needs to be cleared out.
Come on the adventure of Unlearning. I am going on. Wanna join me? The more the merrier.
Recognize where the sh1t is, remove the sh1t, replace the sh1t with the good, the truth, the healthy. Dare I say. Replace sh1t with *Love. ( See what love is at the end)
***NOTE TO THOSE WHO THINK THEY WILL CHANGE OVER NIGHT.***
It took you a lifetime up until now to learn this thing you need to unlearn. So logically, practically unlearning this will not happen instantly. It is a process. Enjoy the journey, because that is where your gonna learn the best stuff, and one day you will be able to turn and strengthen someone else with what you have learned!
Oh dang, I have ended this post with learning, I guess it’s in the unlearning we learn and gain massive insights.