Being human can sometimes be tough, we are imperfect creatures with baggage and trying to figure things out, sometimes understanding our own feelings can be a challenge.
Add another human into the mix, with their baggage, communication style and family of origin habits and we are in for a ride.
The big C is of course. Communication. Learning to communicate well is key to successful relationships and yes indeed a marriage. Being a woman, I know how complicated I can be.
Sometimes I want to be understood completely even though I know for sure I have not communicated my true thoughts and feelings on the matter. I know we can clam up, retreat, ignore, push down, over react or glaze over situation to avoid being vulnerable and growing into mature and healthy communicating adults.
So lets look at 4 helpful communication keys for your relationship. I have recently seen this in Marriage Week and thought I must share!
1. Be CURIOUS, not critical
2. Be CAREFUL, not crushing
3. ASK, don’t assume
4. CONNECT before you correct
When a healthy thriving marriage is your goal, its going to take work. One of my favorite sayings is TODAY’S PAIN IS TOMORROWS STRENGTH. This not only applies to physical work out, but also relationship work out. If we want our relationships to be strong tomorrow, then today we have to put in the painful work of engaging in hard conversations, being curios without criticism and reaching out to connect with our loved ones.
May your marriage thrive, may your love be joy filled and may your hands grow old and wrinkly holding each others.