We prepare all our lives for the work place in school. Yet, we all know money , although necessary, doesn’t make us happy. In fact, you can be a very wealthy person but have a broken marriage.
There are several books I wish they would make you read while going through school, they would provide us an education on healthy happy living and create well rounded people able to go into relationship with the right skills set. I say this because I know what it’s like to go into a relationship and have no idea what I am doing. A child of divorce and not having dad around, left me reeling and not knowing what a healthy relationship should look and feel like. I know many of my own peers and friends who have had this same experience and many readers too.
My experience led me to desire to learn from those who have success.
There are some wonderful , wise and successful in relationship people out there, who have shared their knowledge with us to help us make all of our relationships healthy.
One of my favorite books on healthy relationship practices is LOVE AND RESPECT by DR EMERSON EGGERICHS.
The main concept of the book is how a man desires respect and a woman desires love. We have different love languages and ways in which we perceive communication. A woman sees through her pink tinted sunglasses, and hears through a pink hearing aid. While a man sees through his blue sunglasses and hears through his blue hearing aid. A very simplistic analogy but I think most of us would be able to relate that men and women are simply different. And that’s a good thing. The trick is to learn how to communicate well for what your partner needs.
I may not be married yet myself, but having grown up with 4 older brothers and just being alive, has shown me that men and women do value different aspects of love. Men desire respect and women desire that affirmation.
This book goes into the ‘’crazy cycle’’ when a woman makes a man feel disrespected, it makes him not show her the love she desires, which makes her disrespect him, which makes him withhold the love he wants to give. It’s called the crazy cycle for a reason.
I highly recommend this read on pre marriage preparation, and whatever stage of marriage your in. There are some great real life examples of the love and respect tools that help heal marriages.
May your marriage thrive, may your love be joy filled and may your hands grow old and wrinkly holding each others.
Your Marriage Cheerleader. Shealan